Fed Up of Doing it All Alone?
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Fed up of doing it all alone? Here’s why you feel this way - and what to do about it
Some days, being a mum to a teenage daughter feels like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. You love her more than anything, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.
She’s pulling away, pushing back or lost in her own world - while you’re left holding everything together. The emotional weight? That’s all on you.
If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed and craving real connection - not just with her, but with someone who actually gets what you’re going through - this is for you.
Let’s talk about why it feels like this, what it’s doing to your body and mind, and how you can break the cycle of feeling completely alone in all of this.
Why Parenting in Isolation Feels So Hard
If you’re struggling to carry everything on your own, you’re not imagining it. This isn’t just about parenting being tough - it’s about what happens when you don’t have enough support.
Your brain, body and heart aren’t designed to do this alone. When you’re managing all the emotions, all the tension, and all the unseen struggles without backup, it takes a toll - physically, mentally and emotionally.
Your Brain is in Overdrive
Your brain is wired for connection. When you feel isolated, your stress responses kicks into high gear - more overthinking, more self-doubt, and a never ending cycle of exhaustion.
Your Body is Carrying the Stress
ever notice how your shoulders are constantly tense? The headaches, fatigue, the way you’re always bracing for the next emotional blow-up? That’s your body absorbing he stress - without an outlet to release it.
Your Heart is Taking the Hit
Loneliness isn’t just an emotion. It physically affects your health - messing with your sleep, increasing inflammation, and making everything feel even harder.
And when you’re running on empty like this, it starts to impact your relationship with her, too.
How This Affects Your Relationship
You react instead of respond - because you’re emotionally drained, patience disappears.
You second-guess yourself - because isolation fuels self-doubt.
You crave connection - but she’s pulling away - which makes everything feel even more overwhelming.
This is why you need support - not just for yourself, but for your relationship with your daughter, too.
What You Can Do Right Now
You’re not suddenly going to get more hours in the day, and your daughter isn’t suddenly going to start sharing her deepest thoughts with you.
But you can shift the way you support yourself.
Recognise what’s happening in your body - Instead of just thinking, I’m so done, pause and check in.
Are your shoulders tense?
Is your jaw clenched?
Are you holding your breath without even realising it?
Your body is holding onto more than you think. Just being aware is the first step to releasing that tension.
Get out of fix it mode - When you feel alone, your brain tried to solve the problem. But when your daughter is pulling away., there’s no quick fix - so you end up overthinking, overdoing, and burning yourself out even more.
Instead of fixing, focus on feeling. Acknowledge how hard this is - without forcing yourself to push through.
Connect with someone who gets it - This is the biggest game-changer. You cannot do this alone. And you shouldn’t have to.
The WTF Community: Because You Shouldn’t Have to Do This Alone
When you’re raising a teenage girls, there are a lot of WTF moments.
WTF is going on with her mood today?
WTF just happened?
WTF am I supposed to do here?
But WTF isn’t just about those moments, it stands for What’s The Feeling?
Because behind every eye roll, slammed door and moment she pulls away. there’s a feeling. And the same goes for you too.
You are not failing. You are not imagining how hard this is. You are not meant to do this alone.
That’s why I created the WTF community - a space where you can be honest about the hard parts, get real strategies (instead of judgement), and finally stop feeling like you’re in this by yourself.
Because let’s be honest, there are a lot of WTF moments when parenting teen girls.
But here’s what it really stands for: What’s The Feeling?
Because moods aren’t just moods - they’re messages.
This isn’t a course.
It’s not a programme.
It’s a community.
A space for mums who get it. Who’ve stood exactly where you are right now.
A place where we talk about all this stuff openly - without shame, without judgment, without pretending everything’s fine.
When you have people who get it, you stop just surviving - you start to feel in control again.
So if you’re tired of carrying everything alone, come and join us. Because connection isn’t just helpful - it’s the thing that makes all the difference.
For everyone signing up to WTF, you’ll automatically join the 5 day challenge: starting Monday 17th March 2025!
We’re kicking off a 5 day challenge to help you break out of this cycle of exhaustion and isolation - so you can finally start feeling supported in motherhood.
You don’t have to do this alone. And you don’t have to keep running on empty.
Because parenting your daughter shouldn’t mean losing yourself in the process.
Download my FREE guide - 5 SIGNS YOUR DAUGHTER ISN’T JUST BEING MOODY (and what her body might be trying to tell you)
Because this isn’t just a phase to ride out. It’s a message. And I’ll show you how to decode it.
Let’s be proactive, not reactive!
We’re in this together.
Rach x
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