I see you.
Confused. Angry.
Scared of where this is heading.
And I need you to know… you are not failing her. You’re trying everything you can think of in a world that gave you the wrong map.
I know exactly what’s going on. I’ve spent twenty years connecting dots that everyone else has been staring at separately. And when I connected them for my own daughter - and watched her come back to herself - I knew other mums needed to hear this too.
This is that conversation. Pull up a chair.
Does any of this sound familiar?
She used to be easy to connect with. Now the door’s closed and you don’t know who she is any more.
You’ve tried talking. You’ve tried the phone rules. You’ve tried everything. Nothing works.
Some weeks she’s fine. Other weeks you’re walking on eggshells and you genuinely don’t know why.
You’re second guessing every single thing you do. And you’re exhausted with it.
And underneath it all, you’re scared. Because you can see where this goes if nothing changes.
WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENEDThis isn’t about the phone.
It never was.
COVID closed the door. They couldn't go outside. Couldn't do the activities they loved. All they had was a phone in their hands, all day, every day. And the caring, adventurous, funny, playful girl you knew? She started to disappear.
But here's the bit nobody's talking about. When the world reopened, the door didn't. We kept them inside. We became scared and didn’t know what to do. Handed them screens to keep them busy. And a habit became a way of life.
What got taken away - quietly, without anyone noticing - was play. Real play. Outside, unstructured, physical, messy, loud play. The real stuff, with other girls, not something on a screen. And play is not a nice-to-have. Play is what keeps your daughter’s nervous system - her alarm system, steady. It’s what takes a body from arrgh to ahh. It’s the original regulator. And we switched it off.
LESS
Play, movement & sensory experiences
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LESS
Nature, connection, community & time outside
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MORE
Screens, scrolling & social media
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RISING
Anxiety, depression & crisis in our girls
The platforms moved in to fill every gap that play left. Built by neuroscientists. Designed to exploit your daughter’s alarm system and its hunger for connection and stimulation. Just enough to keep her coming back again, and again, and er again. Never enough to actually satisfy her.
The scroll is a symptom. The empty space it moved into, that’s the problem. And that empty space used to be full of play.
THE BIGGER PICTURE
Everyone is looking at the dots in isolation.
I connect them.
When your daughter’s alarm system is going off constantly, it’s never just about one thing. It’s about everything, all at once, adding up over time. And the problem with every other approach is that it picks one dot - the phone, the diagnosis, the anxiety - and stares at it.
I draw the whole picture. Every time. Because that’s the only way any of this makes any sense.
This is what I see when I sit down with a mum. Not a list of problems. A dot-to-dot, and when it’s connected, you can’t see it. You go from confused and scared to “OMG, now I get it.”
Twenty years working with children and teens both in the NHS in hospitals and the community, and other activities, taught me how the body works under stress. Watching my own daughter crumble, and finding the answer, taught me what actually helps. I found a solution. It worked for us. And I want to shout it from the rooftops.
Play & sensory experience
The original way to steady your daughter’s alarm system. Takes her from arrgh to ahh. We took it away and didn’t replace it with anything real.
Movement & time in nature
Bodies need to move. Nervous systems need green, open spaces. Both switched off at the same time screens switched on.
Food, water, sleep & breathing
Most anxious girls are breathing from the wrong part of their lungs, keeping their bodies in constant low-level threat mode. Three breaths can change all that,
What’s going on inside her body
Hormones, periods, how her alarm system is coping, gut health - all of it is connected. All of it influencing every single action you have with her.
The 28 day cycle
Girls run on a 28 day cycle, not a 24 hour one. Her mood, energy, stress tolerance, all of shifts every week. Nobody mapped this for you.Until now.
WHO I AM AND WHO I'M NOTI’m not here to tell you what you’re doing wrong.
I’m here to show you what nobody showed you.
I know what it feels like to sit across from a professional who looks at one part of your daughter and misses everything else. To leave with a label and no idea what to actually do about it.
I also know the moment where it all clicks. When it suddenly makes sense. When you go from second-guessing everything to understanding what’s actually going on in her body, and having the tools to do something about it.
That moment is what I do.
NOT MEAnother voice telling you to take the phone away.
NOT MEA therapist, or someone treating your daughter like a problem to solve.
NOT MEA last resort. I work with mums early, before crisis, not because of it,
THIS IS METhe person who connects every dot - play, sensory, movement, her cycle, breathing, food, nature, screens - and shows you what’s underneath the behaviour.
THIS IS MESomeone who’s lived it. Watched her own daughter crumble, found the answer, and has been shouting it from the rooftops ever since.
THIS IS MEProactive. Practical. No fluff. Just the whole picture, and what to do about it.
THE DIRECTION OF TRAVELYou don’t have to be in crisis to be here.
Most people aren’t.
Most of the mums who find me caught something early. Teachers who could see something was off but didn’t know what. Girls who just knew something didn’t feel right.
That instinct is right. Coming early is the whole point. I work with those who want to understand what’s happening before it escalates and with the ones already in it. All are welcome here.
Because a body whose alarm system never gets what it needs, doesn’t stay stuck. It moves. And without something to interrupt that, it always moves the same way.
YOU MIGHT BE SEEING
Anxiety
She can’t switch off. Irritable, unsettled, on edge. Nothing seems to help and you don’t know why
OR MAYBE
Withdrawal
The door is closing. She’s stopped talking. She’s in there but she feels very far away.
LEFT UNADDRESSED
Depression
Not a personality. Not a phase. A body that’s been running on empty for too long.
FURTHER DOWN THE ROAD
Crisis
A body that found the only regulation told left available to it, because nobody gave it anything better to connect with. This is why we start now.
“Now I get it. Behaviour is never just about one thing - everything is intertwined. Food, sleep, movement, breathwork, sensory play, time out in nature. the 28 day cycle. All of it”
A mum after her first session with Rach
WHERE DO YOU WANT TO START?Four doors. One framework.
You choose where to come in.
Everything sits under The Whole Body Reset. Pick what’s right for where you are right now.
WTF MEMBERSHIP
For mums who are done googling at 2am.
Monthly coaching, tools, and a community of mums who genuinely get it. The Why, The What, The How - every single month
FOR GIRLS
The Whole Body Reset
An 8 week programme for girls - tweens, teens and young women who are overwhelmed, anxious or just know something feels off. Body-first, sensory, play-based tools that work with her cycle not against it.
SCHOOLS
The girls in your school are struggling. You can see it.
CPD for staff - a 3 part workshop series on self-harm, what’s happening in girls’ bodies, and what actually helps.
LET’S TALK
BRAIN BALANCE
Ease anxiety. Improve concentration and sleep.
Brain and body working together - for the girl who can’t focus, can’t switch off, or can’t seem to feel calm.
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WHAT THEY'RE SAYINGReal words. Real mums. real girls
The tools are really useful and help me cope better.
— JW
I felt calmer and less stressed after the sessions.
— SW
Just knowing you’re not alone in your thoughts is so empowering.
— NF
I fully understand what’s happening for my daughter and I have tools that actually when we’re all fraying at 3.30pm.
— RF
This is nothing like I expected. It’s practical, body-based, and it makes complete sense. I wish I’d found this years ago.
— LK
WHO I AMI’m Rach. And I’ve been connecting these dots for years.
I’m a Health Play Specialist, a Coach/Mentor, mum and podcast host - and the person who finally says out loud what everyone else has been dancing around.
I worked first on NHS wards with children and teens facing the unbearable - in hospitals, in the community, in the places most people don’t see. I saw what happened to bodies under prolonged stress. I saw what helped them.And then I came home and watched it happen to my own daughter.
She crumbled. I went looking for answers. I read everything. Did the extra training. And when I looked back at everything I already knew about play and how the body responds to stress, it all clicked into place. I found a solution. It worked for us. And I have spent every day since making sure girls, mums and schools don’t have to figure it out alone.
I live in the Lake District, UK - real, real. I know exactly what it feels like to raise girls in isolated communities where there’s no bus, no youth club and the phone isn’t a habit - it’s often the only window to the world they have.
Get back into the body. And make it fun whilst you’re at it.
THE MANIFESTOWe didn’t create a generation of struggling girls. We created conditions where dysregulation was inevitable - reduced outdoor play, activities, stripped back sensory experiences, isolated communities with nothing to do - and then handed them devices engineered to fill every gap that left.
We switched two senses on - sight and sound, relentlessly - and switched three off entirely. Touch. Smell. Movement. The ones that actually regulate your body.
You cannot talk it out of the. You cannot reason with a body whose alarm system is constantly going off and running on empty. But you can give it something better to connect with.
Play. Sensory tools. Movement. Real connection. Breath-work. Community. Laughter. Mess. Everything the body wax designed to need - given back, without apology.
It’s waay simpler than everyone’s making it. And messier. And louder. And it works.
Start here if you don’t know where else to begin.
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