Are you finding your teen daughter more defiant as the pre-exam season approaches?

4 simple ways to bring her back on board…

You know those times when you ask your daughter to do something and her first word is NO before you’ve even finished asking her the question?

No one likes to be pushed around especially children, despite what traditional parenting strategies say about being ‘in control’ of your teenager’s life.

This week I’m following on from the other week, talking about counter will and how it shows up for them.

Remember those times when your teen daughter goes from 0-100 in 2 milliseconds? This is counter will showing up as she wants to do things her way, in her own time.

If our teen daughters know that we’ll contain them, whatever is going on for them, it helps them feel safe and secure. They need to be curious and excited by life, not poo pooed by those in the know for knowing better than they do. if we make room for them to find out who they are, it’s a win, win!

Has your bond with your daughter unravelled overnight?

Do you no longer feel like there’s any kind of connection?

Are you locked into a clash of wills?

You want that connection, you want that love, you want that doing the things together that you had with her as a child. It’s ok, you CAN get that back, I am here 100% to say you can get that back.

New Year Intentions vs New Year resolutions and why they don’t work…

Resolutions are plans we make for things to change outside of ourselves like wanting to lose 4 stone but not how or why and this is why they don’t work. Plus it’s post Christmas, the weather is gloomy and dark and you feel crap.

How to reduce overwhelm at Christmas.

4 Simple Tools that help you and your teenage daughter to manage the overwhelm and aargh moments..

Talking 3 tools to help you cope as a Mum of a teenage girl, over this Christmas season. The next 3 episodes will be podcast specials to help you manage the overwhelm and pressures of traditional Christmas expectations.

So the past two weeks I’ve introduced you to peer orientation which is when your teen daughter goes to her friends for answers for absolutely everything but of course if her friends are all the same age as her, then those friends haven’t got the awareness of being able to take a step back, being able to look at the bigger picture, as we do as their Mums.

Continuing the topic from last week..about peer orientation and how being with their friends 24/7 affects how their brains 🧠 work and reacts to everyday stress. Listen more as to how peer orientation not only affects your daughter, it also affects how you feel about yourself.

I’m going to introduce you to the signs and the symptoms that your teen daughter is orientating towards her friends rather than you, and how it moves our girls out of right relationship with you and how being with their friends 24/7 increases their anxiety.

What does peer orientation mean to us as Mums of our teen daughters? How does it affect our relationship? Why not taking her behaviour towards you, helps to grow your relationship (within reason).

3 Insights into what happens to our teen daughters when they go to their friends for everything…

Why is connection & community so important for us as Mums? Why is being around Mums in similar situations so important for our mental health?

3 Insights into why we need to have like minded Mums around us supporting us in our roles as Mums of teen girls

Why is my teenage daughter so angry?

Ever get those feelings that your teen daughter he hates you?

Everything you try just doesn’t cut it any more..and you’re feeling lost and alone..

4 Insights into what’s actually happening with your teenage daughter

ANNOUNCEMENT! In this week’s episode, I explain why I’m changing the podcast name from Stop Juggling, Start Living - a podcast for parent carers to Teen Whisperer. Listen to find out more!

I’m Rachel, a qualified holistic health coach and Jing massage therapist. I’m a woman who wants to share my learnings and wisdom from my own journey. Here’s my story and how it led me to the work I do today…

In this week’s episode, I have some exciting news!!! Hands up who wants to meet with other parent carers? Come and join me on the first of our monthly meets at Honister in the heart of the Lake District to try the infinity bridge!

How are you doing this week? How’s your child managing right now? Do you ever feel isolated or on your own as a parent carer? Do you ever feel like no one understands what you are going through?

In this episode, I talk about how we absorb their energy and the normal reaction is to try to ‘fix’ them. What’s important is that it’s ok to feel rubbish and it’s also totally natural.

In this episode, I talk about why connecting with and guiding our children is paramount to working with them. It gives them back control to be in charge of what’s happening for them.

In this episode, I talk about how self-care isn’t selfish and shouldn’t take up too much time or money. If it does and it’s stressing you out, it’s not right for you.

In this episode, I talk about why simple self-help tools help to feed your soul so you can focus on everything else around you.

So how have you done this month of the new year? Have you been able to make a little more space for yourself? And if you haven’t, don’t worry. Don’t have a go at yourself, don’t feel worthless, it’s life as we know it.