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How to Support Your Daughter (and Yourself) During this Mad Holiday Season
Let me set the scene: it’s December. The tree’s up, the calendar is overflowing, and you’re juggling a million to-dos. Meanwhile, your daughter is either hiding in her room scrolling through TikTok or insisting she absolutely needs the latest trend to fit in.
You’re left wondering, Is this what the holidays are supposed to feel like?
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. The holidays can be a challenging mix of excitement and pressure, especially when you add social media and teenage stress into the equation.
Today, we’re diving into how social media, holiday chaos, and stress collide - and more importantly, how you, as her mum, can anchor her through it all. We’ll explore what’s happening in her brain, body, and emotions, and share practical ways to support her energy, motivation, and sleep this season.
The Impact of Social Media During the Holidays
For teens, the holidays can amplify the pressure to “measure up.” Social media takes this to a whole new level, bombarding her with picture-perfect images of parties, gifts, and glowing families. These curated snapshots trigger feelings of FOMO (fear of missing out) and a need for validation, making her more vulnerable to self-doubt and comparison.
But the impact doesn’t stay on her phone - it spills into her everyday life. Social media influences her energy levels, sleep patterns, and even her ability to stay motivated.
How This Might Show Up
You might notice your daughter:
Exhausted but wired: Staying up late scrolling, then dragging herself out of bed the next morning.
Irritable or moody: Snapping over small things or withdrawing from family activities.
Overwhelmed but unmotivated: Feeling like there’s too much to do but no energy to start.
Emotionally, she might feel anxious, left out, or not good enough. Physically, the constant stimulation of social media and disrupted sleep take a toll, leaving her body out of sync and her mind on overdrive.
What’s Happening Inside Her
Let’s break it down:
Her Brain:
At her age, the prefrontal cortex - the part responsible for decision-making and impulse control - is still developing. Meanwhile, her limbic system, the emotional center of her brain, is in overdrive. This imbalance makes it harder for her to resist social media’s pull or step back from comparisons.
Her Body:
The constant stimulation from her phone disrupts her circadian rhythm, making it harder for her to fall and stay asleep. Poor sleep doesn’t just make her tired - it impacts her mood, focus, and even her immune system.
Her Heart:
Deep down, she’s craving connection, validation, and acceptance. Social media promises to provide that, but more often, it leaves her feeling isolated or “not enough.”
The Stats to Know
The challenges teens face today are reflected in the numbers:
Teens who spend more than 3 hours a day on social media are more likely to report symptoms of depression and anxiety.
Sleep deprivation among teens is at an all-time high, with nearly 70% not getting the recommended 8–10 hours per night.
A study from The Anxious Generation found that social media use correlates with a 59% increase in anxiety disorders among girls.
These aren’t just statistics - they’re wake-up calls.
3 Practical Ways to Support Her
As her mum, you can help her navigate this tricky season by focusing on her energy, sleep, and motivation. Here’s how:
Sync with Her Energy Cycles
Teens naturally have a delayed sleep-wake cycle, which means they feel more awake at night and struggle to get going in the morning. Instead of fighting this, try to work with her natural rhythm:
Plan energy-intensive tasks during her high-energy periods (late morning or early afternoon).
Encourage calming activities in the evening, like journaling, stretching, or listening to relaxing music.
Create a Sleep Sanctuary
Good sleep is the foundation of her well-being. Help her establish a bedtime routine:
Limit screens an hour before bed: Blue light from devices suppresses melatonin, the hormone that helps her sleep. Suggest reading or listening to calming music instead.
Make her room a sleep haven: Keep her space cool, dark, and quiet. Consider tools like a weighted blanket or lavender pillow spray to help her relax.
Address racing thoughts: If she struggles with an overactive mind at night, introduce her to techniques like deep breathing or writing down her thoughts before bed to “offload” her worries.
Boost Her Motivation Naturally
Motivation doesn’t magically appear; it’s tied to how she feels emotionally and physically. Help her regain her drive with small, intentional steps:
Fuel her body: Healthy snacks like yogurt, nuts, or eggs on toast can provide steady energy without spikes and crashes.
Break big tasks into smaller steps: Instead of overwhelming her with everything at once, encourage her to focus on one small goal at a time. Celebrate progress, not perfection.
Encourage movement: Even 10 minutes of light exercise—like a walk or dance break—can boost her mood and get her energy flowing.
If this resonates with you and you’d like more support, check out my free guide, Raising Confident Girls in a Digital World. It’s filled with practical tips to help you navigate the unique challenges of raising a teen in today’s tech-driven world.
A Final Word
Mums, the holidays are about more than just ticking off to-do lists or creating picture-perfect moments. They’re about connection, rest, and modelling healthy habits for your teen.
Remember, you’re not just managing holiday chaos - you’re shaping how your daughter learns to navigate stress, comparison, and self-worth for the rest of her life.
So, instead of striving for perfection, aim for presence. Small, intentional changes - like prioritising her energy, sleep, and mindset - can ripple out into big, lasting benefits.
You’ve got this.
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Let’s keep whispering together - your teen is listening, even if she doesn’t always show it.
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Rach x
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