Why your teen’s behaviour isn’t personal - and how to reconnect
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Do you feel like no matter what you do, your daughter keeps pulling away? The eye rolls, silent treatment, and slammed doors can make it feel like you’re failing - but you’re not.
The truth is, her behaviour isn’t about you - it’s a signal of what’s going on inside her. And when you take a moment to reflect on your own emotions and responses, you can shift from frustration to connection.
Why Is She Acting This Way?
Your teen’s brain is still developing - especially the part responsible for emotional regulation. Add in hormones, social pressure, and digital distractions, and it’s no wonder her emotions feel all over the place.
And here’s the thing - your stress and unmet needs can make these moments even harder. If you’re exhausted or doubting yourself, it’s much harder to stay calm and connect. That’s why self-reflection is a game-changer.
3 Simple Ways to Reconnect Today
Create Space for Reflection
Find a quiet moment - after coffee, before bed, whenever you can. Grab a notebook and check in with yourself.
Ask Yourself These 3 Questions:
What am I feeling right now?
What do I need? (Rest, support, time for yourself?)
What really matters in my relationship with my daughter?
Free-Write for 5 Minutes
No overthinking - just let your thoughts flow onto paper. Clarity comes through reflection.
Connection Starts With You
By understanding what’s going on inside you, you can show up for your daughter with patience and presence - not just reaction.
Exciting Next Steps…
Lastly, I want to share something exciting - my brand-new membership, launching soon. It’s a step-by-step journey to help you feel more confident, connected, and in control as you work through life with your teen.
You’ll learn how to:
Decode your teen’s behaviour and respond in ways that strengthen your bond.
Build better communication and create a calmer, more supportive home.
Prioritise your well-being so you can show up as your best self.
You’ll get exclusive resources, live coaching, and a community of mums who truly get it. Find out more and join the waitlist at www.theteenwhisperer.co.uk.
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Let’s keep whispering together - your teen is listening, even if she doesn’t always show it.
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Rach x
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